The second step in being changed by God is commitment. When the angel asked to be let go, Jacob replied, “I will not let you go unless you bless me” (v. 26). Jacob was committed; he was persistent; he stayed with the situation until he worked it out. He was in a situation he didn’t like. It was frustrating and it was getting him down, but he was one hundred percent committed to staying with the situation until God turned it around for good.
Here is the lesson we learn from this: After God gets our attention with a problem, he does not solve it immediately. There are these words that we must work toward in our lives. Words like faith, steadfast, endurance… Most people miss God’s best for their lives because they give up too soon; they cop out; they become discouraged. When God allows a problem in their lives, instead of hanging in there and saying, “God, I’m not going to let go of this until you bless me, until you turn it around, they give up and end up missing God’s best.
Often when people go for counseling They are asked, “Have you tried praying about the situation?”
They will reply, “Oh yes, I’ve prayed.”
“How many times?”
We are so conditioned to having instant everything—instant macaroni, instant access, instant success—that if we don’t have an instant answer to our one prayer, or an instant turnaround, we say, “Forget it, God.” Sometimes a couple struggling in their marriage are ready to give up just when success is around the corner. They are ready to cop out when the solution is almost there.
Even if we really want to change, we need to remember that we didn’t get into our present mess overnight. Our attitudes and actions and habits and fears and weaknesses and ways of responding to our wife or husband took years to develop, and sometimes God has to remove them layer by layer. Usually it takes a while for God to change you.
It also takes time for us to adapt to the new conditions and situations. Psychologists tell us that it requires six weeks of doing something every day before something becomes a habit in our lives. This is why many people never get into the Bible. We read the Bible for two or three days, miss it for a few days, then read it again for a few days. We never get past that six-week barrier, and as a result, we never feel comfortable with it. We must do it every day for at least six weeks before we start becoming comfortable with this good, new habit.
Whatever you do, don’t give up. There is hope. Hang in there. Be committed to getting God’s best for your life.
Commitment—Habit—whatever it is we must show our faithfulness.